I’m more surprised that ya’ll are surprised about Harvey Weinstein.
How many times have we heard of men abusing their power to intimidate women into doing what they want. Its been going on for years, and thats not to negate the claims these women made, I’m just genuinely not surprised. How often do you hear about a man in power abusing his authority? I know I hear it all the time. I have a bigger issue with all the men in Hollywood acting like they had no idea that this has been going on for decades. That, I find extremely hard to believe. Ben Affleck already caught a stray from acting like he didn’t know. Then was accused of doing the exact same thing. Harvey Weinstein is the epitome of a prick and sexual predator.
Men in Hollywood need to use their privilege to stand up for women. I know exactly what it feels like to be extremely uncomfortable in the vicinity of a man that is just creepy. There’s this thing about women that makes men think we’re here only to appease you. When in all actuality that’s not the case at all. No one wants to have their ass grabbed “just because” or their breast felt on because you “saw something on their shirt.” Seriously? That shit doesn’t work. We always here “she didn’t care, she laughed.” That’s because we’re uncomfortable, jackass. Harvey Weinstein clearly never got the hint.
Don’t speak up just because everyone else is.
What I mean when I say that is, don’t say something just because everyone else is doing it. Only speak up if you truly believe that what’s going on is completely wrong. Don’t say how “appalled” you are just because everyone else is and you want to fit in. Speak up because your mom, sister, wife, daughter, girlfriend or any woman goes through this shit on a daily basis. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been sexually harassed just walking down the street let alone by someone I know. It is so mind – numbingly uncomfortable. Then you don’t know what to say, which makes you even more confused. Trying to find the strength to speak up when your career could suffer is difficult.
In writing this I’ve written and erased more sentences trying to figure out how to tell my own story. The many stories that I have, there’s only a few that really stand out because it was people I love and trusted. Those are the ones that hurt the most because you think that they’d never do something like that to you. Unfortunately, so many women, including myself, have been wrong. I’ve had someone rub my arm for a little too long or maybe offer me gifts in exchange for other favors, like modeling said gifts. Its not okay and it needs to stop. All you men out there, don’t act like you’ve spoken up every time a woman told you she was being harassed. Most men do everything in their power to justify their friends’ bad behavior and its bullshit.
Men need to speak up for what’s right, not because of the crowd. Half these men speaking up don’t care nor do they want to admit they were wrong.